DOES ANY OF THE FOLLOWING FEEL FAMILIAR...
- You feel a calling to live the fullest and brightest expression of yourself in the world, despite how scary it might seem?
- You're searching for your place in this world, to feel at home and make a difference, but have no idea where to start?
- You're fed up of trying to fit in, have been judged for being different and are ready to feel more alive?
- You hide things that interest you or that you are passionate about (even from those closest to you) for fear of being judged or because you think they're not valuable?
- You can feel something is out of alignment, don't know who you are anymore or sense you're holding yourself back from living fully?
- You begrudgingly stay quiet or pass up opportunities due to a deep sense that something bad will happen if you put yourself out there?
If any of this resonates, you are not alone. I see you, I feel you and I have a sense of where you are right now.
The great news is that there is hope.
“Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
― Howard Thurman, The Living Wisdom of Howard Thurman: A Visionary for Our Time
THE POTENTIAL OF YOUR LIGHT
BEING MORE ALIVE
We are living in a world that is more uncertain than ever. The circumstances of our lives are changing and the temptation to try and control our environment to maintain a sense of safety can seem very compelling.
But does this really work? Or do we end up in endless loops of striving / pushing and resisting that not only tires us out but tends to only have a limited effect?
What if all this chaos offered us a new invitation? An invitation to settle into the inherent safety that is found when we fully own, embrace and integrate who we truly are and shine our light in the world?
What if this was the path to:
- A Deeper Sense of Safety?
- Greater Abundance?
- Better Health & Wellbeing?
Even if your mind doesn't think it makes sense!
In my experience most of us have disowned parts of ourselves. Perhaps they are skills or interests or ways of being in the world. We've attuned ourselves to fit in and follow an accepted path. As a result we've dimmed our light and disconnected ourselves from the source of our power.
“Lighthouses don't go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining”
― Anne Lamott
OUR JOURNEYS OF OWNING OUR LIGHT
MEET YOUR FACILITATORS
John El-Mokadem (lead facilitator)
LEARNING TO ACCEPT MYSELF AS I AM
Hi there, I'm John El-Mokadem. For the last 20 years I've been on an ongoing journey of re-integrating parts of myself that I have judged and shut down from.
I've come to see that the hiding of myself and my efforting to be accepted and to succeed was behind all of my suffering. It was a key part of a health crisis that I experienced in 2007 that went on for nearly 7 years.
A big part of my healing came from seeing that the efforting was unnecessary. I had forgotten that there was an intelligence to life that could unfold things effortlessly through me without my busy thinking.
I’ve also seen that the efforting was propelled by a basic rejection of who I was. I had bought into the idea that because I felt different there must be something wrong with me and that this was actually some kind of problem. It actually seemed and felt unsafe for me to really ‘own’ and ‘be’ who I really was, and this created a low level of resistance to myself which really took a toll on my physical body.
As time has gone on, I have begun to see through this. I’ve learned that not only is it ’safe’ for me to be who I really am. It is somehow ‘required’ more than ever.
That sounds really grandiose and ego-ic. I don’t mean it that way. In fact it’s somewhat surprising to me that this is true. Such is the level of rejection I have felt towards myself that even now I still my find my head questioning the truth of it. (I’ve found this is true of many of the people that I have spoken to about this also).
What I have seen is that it has been the revealing of those parts of me that have typically been hidden or rejected that seems to have been at the root of me being able to help others. It has also by extension been the source of greater abundance in my life.
This retreat is part of me Shining My Light, I invite you to come on this journey with me and discover how you too can Shine Your Light.
My good friend and colleague Karen DiMarco will be helping me run and facilitate the retreat. You can read more about her story below.
Love John x
Karen DiMarco (co-facilitator)
CLOSING THE GAP: WHO I TRULY AM AND WHO THE WORLD TOLD ME TO BE
“Being left behind.” That fear drove me to spend every day of my life checking the boxes that I thought would prevent me from being disliked, disapproved of, or disappointing anyone.
There was the smart box, the kind box, the courageous box, the funny box, the feminine box, the success box, the thin box, the strong box, and all those ‘good’ girl/daughter/friend and mother boxes.
I lived my life according to what I believed were the expectations of others, and who I thought my parents, peers, culture, mentors, religion, and world said I ‘ought to be.’
Then one day, I surrendered in a puddle of snot-and-tears on the floor of my master bedroom closet - too depressed, exhausted, sick, and demented to go on living my life on ‘red alert,’ and hypervigilant for the approval of others. I threw the boxes out.
The gap between who I truly was, and who the world said I ‘ought to be,’ slammed shut as I met myself for the first time.
And in ending the efforting to hold that gap open, by my body and mind not only healed, but discovered greater levels of health, happiness, and human potential than ever before.
Today if I was asked: “What is your greatest fear?” My answer would be: “Doing something that is out of integrity for the approval of others.”
I’ve lived and seen the damage that living out of integrity with myself did in the first 37 years of my life, and when the light of my true self knocked, I only had to have the courage to crack open the door of invitation, then grace did the rest to burn off all that was not me.
My dear friend and colleague, John El-Mokadem said: “I’ve learned that not only is it ’safe’ for me to be who I really am. It is somehow ‘required’ more than ever.”
I join him in his passion and purpose to help others to ‘close the gap, and shine the light of their true selves. Because when you have yourSELF, you can never be ‘left behind;’ and you have the very thing you were seeking all along. And your light gives the rest of the world permission to shine too.
ARE YOU READY TO SHINE?
I'd like to invite you to come on a 3.5 day journey to remember, settle into and shine your light. At this critical time in our history, and as the form of our lives becomes more and more chaotic, never before has it been so important for more of us to be able to remember that part of ourselves that is ALWAYS solid, safe and creative.BOOK NOW
In this 3.5 day online retreat, we will be exploring why it's really safe for us to really embrace our light. The focus will be to shift your understanding such that it begins to strip away the ideas and beliefs that it is somehow useful to hide or restrict our fullest expression.
Date: Thursday 3rd to Sunday 6th December
Numbers: 12 Spaces AvailableBOOK NOW
WE WILL BE EXPLORING...
“We’ve attuned ourselves to fit in and follow an accepted path. As a result we’ve dimmed our light and disconnected ourselves from the source of our power”
SHINE YOUR LIGHT FEEDBACK
HEAR WHAT MY PREVIOUS SHINE CLIENTS SAY
"And thank you for what you said in video 5. It said more to me than a hundred coaching sessions. I realise I really am the light.
The safety and respect generated by John and the group enabled me to recognise some deep seated and long standing rejections of myself and to feel much more energised about and aware of myself as a person and be much more at peace with myself. I love John’s humanity, courage, compassion and clarity and much more, he has indelibly touched my life in so many ways for which I will always be very grateful
My biggest challenge has always been acceptance of myself, knowing I was in a different key to most people and a feeling of never quite fitting in but not knowing why. The course made me realise I was so not alone, and as John put it...How extraordinary we are when we are not rejecting “our” ordinariness. I realised I am a lighthouse, who’s role in life is just to shine. I don’t need to have exceptional gifts, I am enough being who I am and that’s more than enough. John is one of those special people who I know will run through my life with me on some level and I count him as a true friend and great mentor.
I am excitedly about to embark upon a course that will take me to a level of deeper introspection and which I hope will help me to support others who perhaps have felt or suffered similar challenges to mine or perhaps unrelated. Who knows, I'm going with the flow. The thing is, I'm not sure I would have been led to this or found the voice to say, THIS IS ME and I want to do this, without the warmth and gentle encouragement of this group and John. I know it isn't about the doing, it is about the being but if you get the chance to do one of John's intensives, retreats or courses like this, grab it with both hands!!
The shine your light program with John made me tear up the second I read the email for it. A deep knowing someone understood me. John is well versed in the principles understanding and lives the life of one who can sense and feel into others energies which makes him an amazing guide for this sort of exploration. I always feel cared for an in good hands with John. During the program I kept seeing how normal I was in my gifts and that they are safe. John even challenged me to put myself and my gifts out there in a way I hadn't before and once I did I saw there was nothing to be scared of. But I knew someone had my back to explore and see. Now I'm having a blast with my channeling skills having people thank me for the messages im sharing. I wouldn’t be sharing that side of me if it wasn’t for this course and John’s loving nudge to shine. I am so grateful for these gifts and the many others from working with John. I always leave feeling more whole, relaxed and alive. Thank you.
HOW THE RETREAT WORKS
AN IMMERSIVE 3.5 DAY EXPERIENCE
The retreat will compromise of a combination of conversation, reflection, consideration of resources and small group exercises conducted online over Zoom. All you will need is a quiet space, an internet connection and a device with a webcam (such as PC, Mac, ipad/tablet)
Outline Schedule (Thursday 3rd to Sunday 6th December - timings suitable for UK, Europe and US)
Day 1 (4 - 630PM UK): Introductory / Get To Know Call
Day 2 (2 - 830PM UK): Your Natural Healthy Frequency / Is Shining Our Light Something We Do or Proclaim?
Day 3 (2 - 830PM UK): What If What We Reject About Ourselves Is Our Superpower? / Health & Wellbeing
Day 4 (2 - 830PM UK): What If You Are The Light? / Owning Your Light
GROUP TEACHING SESSIONS
Exploring the main teaching topics together and answering questions in real time.
A chance to reflect on the core topics, explore some exercises both individually and in small groups.
Things to consider to bring alive the subjects that we are exploring as part of the journey.
Nothing is off the table for discussion in the retreat. In the first course we discussed a wide range of things including: channelling, being an empath, starseeds, limiting beliefs, astrology, hobbies, personal beliefs, trauma experiences, energy clearing, meditation and much more.
Now more than ever your light is needed. It might seem ordinary to you, but to someone else it will be extraordinary because of the energy and feeling behind it.
SHINE YOUR LIGHT RETREAT
CHOOSE A RETREAT OPTION
I'M NOT A COACH, THERAPIST OR HEALER, IS THIS FOR ME?
WHAT HAPPENS IF I CAN'T ATTEND THE MAJORITY OF THE RETREAT?
ARE THERE PAYMENT PLANS AVAILABLE?
WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I HAVE FURTHER QUESTIONS?